PERSONALITY VS SEXUALITY

In our formative years, we all had something we wanted so bad, some of us got our desires, while some of us still hope till today for that one thing or got over it. Most of these things we wished for was because we wanted to fit in among our friends, we did not want to be that one person who does not have the things, features or attributes that made people feel special. When we fall into the category of those who get the things they want out of life at all times, these occurrences shape us just like the category of hardly ever fulfilling our heart desires.

What I have found out is that people's personalities are nurtured by the circumstances that surrounded them while they were growing up. Studying some of my friends, I began to realise that most of them were products of their environment and situations that occur frequently in their lives. Their attitude towards life has been informed by certain things that happened to them in the past and left indelible imprints in their memories. These attitudes are also very much connected to what they look like physically and this is the definition of who they are.

Very good looking

The opposite of the other picture

Most of my guy friends who are not very attractive happen to be very intelligent. You may not agree with me but I'm sure most of the guys who were outstanding students back in school were those who were not high-up in the looks department. So the unattractive guy begins to look for other means to perfect himself other than his physical appearance. He must have found out while growing up that he never got party parcels easily at birthday parties because the Lady sharing the gifts frowned at him when he pointed out that he had not received one. When people were to choose partners to play with, he would most likely be the last person chosen or paired up. While most of his peers had already sampled willing girls in the neighbourhood, he was part of the category who the girls only saw as minions of the guys they slept with and eventually when this guy gets lucky, his friends had to negotiate on his behalf.

This situation results to two extremities, it is either the young man descends into depression, becomes hateful of others or choose to constantly strive for that one thing that will eventually make him special and stand out among his peers. The unattractive guys I know have compelling personalities, you would always love their companies because of their beautiful minds and with time, you begin to see beyond the physical as you begin to listen to their minds. They are usually more caring, more attentive, conscientious, usually because they do not wish to hurt people as they know what it feels like to hurt. Some of them are geeks who prefer to evolve some day by developing their minds.

Then we have the very attractive guy who has received everything in life on a platter of gold. While he was a child, those ladies sharing gifts at parties would look for him to hand him his personal parcel or even go to his house to drop it if he had left before time. He was coddled by teachers, parents and most especially the girls around him right from he began to have wet dreams. He did not have to hustle hard for important things in life because a pleasant face was always interesting to look at and people would always give him things easily just to get a chance to see him again or have him around them. As a result of this, he has not been given a chance to develop himself as he sees no need to. He may become shallow, indifferent, lazy, vain and very dull. Academically, he is usually average and if he happens to have a good or expensive education, then we are all in trouble. Depending on the kind of crowd he mixes with, he thinks girls are toys because he gets their attention even before he opens his mouth. He believes he deserves everything and his desires are his rights. Most of them are players and slackers.

*Coughs*

Interesting

Do not get me wrong, there are some people who fall in varied categories, like those who are unattractive and equally dull or very attractive with good brains. Some geeks will even break a girl's heart the way the player will never think of, everything is circumstantial.

However, whether attractive or not, you can never go wrong with a guy with a beautiful mind. You learn from them every time they speak, how they act, how they relate with others, how they respond to those they care about and what they make their priorities in life. As for me, I'll always choose personality over sexuality, good character over the best stud in bed, content over appearance because like a very wise man once said, looks will fade but character endures the longest.. Share your thoughts please!