BIG BROTHER NAIJA 2020 (CONTESTANTS AND THEIR HANDLES!)

It’s that time of the year again, it’s voyeurism time! Big brother Naija 2020 has set off and introduced 20 contestants to us on 19^th of July 2020. The time we will all watch other people live their lives on national television while we sit and judge their characters or determine the ultimate results.

It was so much fun ogling all those contestants on screen and most of them have interesting personalities so far. 

Let’s get to business and meet each one of them to explore what exactly makes them watch-worthy……….. for now. You know opinions change as the weeks fly by, it’s just week 1 of the several weeks the contestants will spend in the house, leggo!

In the order of appearance:

Insta: @officialozo_

OZOEMENA : When this guy popped up on the screen, you cannot help but marvel at how gorgeous he is especially because of his complexion which seems to be a highlight of the male contestants in their introduction videos. He is well spoken and comes from a family of high-achievers as he mentioned that he has 3 sisters, two of whom are medical doctors while one is a lawyer. Ozo is an entrepreneur, a catch right? He is already a fan favourite.

@veeiye

VICTORIA VEE is our Briton in the house this year and her over-friendliness was very obvious as she ensured she welcomed almost all the other housemates as they arrived. She is very opinionated and has been in Nigeria for one year to get good opportunities. She says she is a musician, maybe she has not heard about the plights of Nigerian female musicians but hey, she is on one of the popular platforms to show us her songbird prowess.

@princenelsonenwerem

 NELSON PRINCE is another entrepreneur (everyone is running from salary) who is into fitness and evidently dons a sexy physique. He is a bit stand-offish at first and apparently his dad is a king so hence his name. The most important information about Prince is that he was crowned Mr Nigeria in 2018. One of the other housemates asked “So what are you doing here?” We have wondered the same thing, we will all find out with time because this guy already had a small tiff with a lady in-house over ownership of bed.  This aint ya kingdom, Prince.

@liloaderogba

 LILO: This babe is beautiful and she is quick to emphasize that she is a Yoruba girl from Osun state. A Dietician (who drank alcohol, became tipsy and overly excited on the first day in-house) who says she does not like people being all up in her business. Wait, does she know what Big Brother Naija is all about? She is one of the pretty girls in the house and is already about to be involved in entanglement with the fine boys in the building. Lilo seems wild and said something about pussy and dick the first night, but not many Nigerians heard this clearly.

@trikytee

TIMMY TRIKYTEE burst on to our screen with so much energy and immediately portrayed himself as the happy-go-lucky guy, he even gave us some nice dance steps. TrikyTee is 35 years old which is kind of old in big brother generation but we are loving his vibes which is positive so far. He says his mouth may put him in trouble in the house but he is doing fine now as he said a big hello to his fellow contestants when he stepped into the house. He is into film and music.

@oluwaluciana

 LUCY is the bottle blonde in the house and came in wearing spandex. She is also an entrepreneur, sighs. Lucy comes across as a guy’s girl because she is quite sociable and laughs a lot. She is 30 years old, miles older than most of the girls in the house but her juices are still over-flowing as we all saw her reaction when the tall Eric removed his shirt. Lucy strikes us as a freaky freaky because she even started giggling and jumping giddily when Praise (an exotic dancer) did a little whine with his waist, we cannot wait for things to start heating up.

@kiddwaya

KIDDWAYA - Wait for it, he is the son of a Billionnaire, according to reports o. This one reminds us of Iyanya, thick and all built up with sinewy muscles. He is kinda cool too but lost some points when he said he is known for being confident and arrogant. Not sure these are qualities that are endearing but oh well, it could be a defense mechanism. Guys like this are super softies, you just need to know where to tickle. Kiddwaya is self-employed (Decoration for the term entrepreneur)

E be like say nobody left a salaried job for Big Brother this year o, corona don show us waya! Get it?

@thedorathybachor

DORATHY……OMG!!! This 24 years old lady got everyone talking, some screaming while some were just left with their mouths open with plenty drooling. Why? Two words. Mammary glands! Dorathy has gigantic boobs and she came well-packaged in a black frilly gown that pushed up her boobs up to her forehead. The boobs are quite beautiful to look at, no lies here, even women are mesmerized by the size. Twitter was abuzz with Dorathy’s chest with many saying she does not need to worry, she is already a winner with her future (boobs in front). Dorathy is also an entrepreneur, whew!

 @itz_praise

PRAISE. This Flavour look-alike guy is a good dancer and many have said he is the “Tuoyo” of this season which in layman terms mean he is the exotic dancer or stripper of this season. He is already showing us his waist- whining skills. This 28 years old guy came into the house with a well-groomed head of dreads and earrings, dangling earrings please, while he almost appeared effeminate, Praise quickly dispelled our fears by announcing that he was once in a relationship with two women who were both well-aware of the fact. Word is Praise is a father but he made no mention of him being one. 

@wathonianyansi

 WATHONI FLORENCE: Part Kenyan, Part Nigerian, Wathoni seems very laidback so far and she mentioned that she is a mom. She is into the fashion, music and loves taking pictures. She also comes across as very playful and has dimples when she smiles. She would need to do more to make people talk about her as Big Brother is no place for any 29 year old wallflower.

@officialtochi_oke

 TOCHI: Tochi is a single guy and one of those ones we are still waiting to get a feel on. His beard is giving some people anxiety attacks as it almost covers his entire face, if he sells beard oil, he will sell out, like he is a perfect model for it. He is into real estate and is a 28 years old who wants to be himself in the house. Yeah right. Moving on. 

@official_ka3na

KATRINA – KA3NA – KATE JONES: Multiple personality? Introducing tattoos and a big gold chain with her name on it. All about promoting her brand, obviously, no, she actually said it, a good strategy. Katrina says she hates poverty and wants to be famous. While speaking to Ebuka during her introduction, she was actually speaking like she was giving her winning speech. So far, we have not seen any winning anything, she even forgot to wear her mic at a point in the house. How will we vote for you when we cant hear you?

@akhigbeeric

  ERIC: Eric is tall, like 6 foot 5 and into fitness too. Guy’s body is amazing, he took off his shirt and almost made Lucy forget her home training. So far, Eric is a cool guy and a looker. He just seems like a guy most girls will like. My advice, stay shirtless Eric, burn your shirts in the backyard of the house, burn all your shirts to ashes, then blow the ashes away. Give us a respite in this corona era, give Nigerians something good to look at. Thank you in advance.

@ericanlewedim

NGOZI ERICA: 26 years old Erica gave us low-budget Mercy Eke vibes (last BBNaija winner) at first but guess what, we changed our minds like few minutes later. She is an actress from Met Film London who wants to be a well-known  celebrity and says with impunity that she is the star of the show. Pomposity incorporated. She walked to the stage like she was competing in a beauty pageant but she is truly a beauty as we would later find out when she removed all the makeup from her face in the house and we could still recognize her . We didn’t mistake her for a “Ninja”. She is one of the beautiful ladies in the house.

@official.brighto

BRIGHT: Wait, why does the note here say “seems boring”? oh yeahhhhh, this is the evangelist guy. He seems quite out of place, maybe he would have fared better if BBNaija was held on a ship as Bright works as a Sailor. This Bright guy was caught on camera staring blankly into nothingness while in the house on the first day. Fish out of water true true.

@kaisha_officialbbn

AISHA KAISHA: Loooooooong sigh. I swear, this person was put in the house as a not so nice distraction. She is 25 years old from Sokoto and we wish she could just go back to Sokoto as one of her “Uncles” is already complaining on Twitter about her not being true to their “Arewa” culture where women are bashful. Please bash the door for her to go out and back to So Ko To. No interesting personality here, not exactly what people want to watch on television and this is just the honest truth. Kaisha should take Bright along with her too. Sighs. Moving on.

No time. We do not have patience to accommodate mis-fits in corona period. Every day counts.

@iamtheonlyneo

 NEO: Not going to write his full name here, no space. He drives Uber and talked about his baggage a lot on-screen. He is quite loud and took over game session in the house with so much aggression that we almost turned the television off. But hey, we love a hustler, we hope Neo brings matrixes of not so forced entertainment very soon.

@tolanibaj

TOLANIBAJ:  Tolani is a 27 years old lady who likes money a lot. She said it, we are quoting. She says she is a Queen and danced very well during her introduction to us. She comes across as very put-together and confident but we caught her making faces at the other contestants in the house. Maybe, that’s just her face though. She was one of those people we didn’t recognize after the makeup had been wiped off under the natural lighting of the big brother house.

@itslaycon

 LAYCON: Of Lay Lay Lay of Lagos! This guyyyyyyyyyy. There were so many birds fluttering and tweeting on Twitter over Laycon, wow! Laycon came on to the screen and we were like, who is the electrician? This 26 years old musician came into our vision wearing a lit-up jacket that looked like he just stole all the lights in the transformers from an area in Ikorodu. People came bearing down on Laycon as several memes emerged about his looks within minutes of his appearance on television. No lies, it was super hilarious. Laycon is Yoruba and looks every bit of the part. People really judged Laycon by his cover so bad. Guess what? This seems to be working in his favour as it got people talking about him and posting his photographs which made him to have quite the free buzz online. Laycon also seems to be more than meets the eyes when he opens his mouth, he speaks polished English and has already delivered a now popular statement “Have Sense”. Somebody should make a shirt with that inscription! Laycon the Underdog.

@nengiofficial

  NENGI: Nengi. Nengi. Nengi. Those producers at Big Brother Naija are such teases of the year, they put the hottest for last to titillate us. Gorgeous, curvy,  attractive 22 years old beauty queen who wants all of us to do the utmost impossible, see beyond her appearance and get to know her. Say what? Nengi, we cannot see beyond that your backside which you were quick to accentuate in an itty bitty bumshort as soon as you got into the house. Nengi with the glow and curves, came with a wave of “kill them all” as she made us forget all the female contestants that came before her. This lady went from a few thousand followers on Instagram to 100k followers and counting within few hours of her showing up on our screens. Everyone wants Nengi to pair with OZo as a couple but this would be Ojoro so we are not praying for this to happen, not that there is any chance of it occurring anyways.

So there it is! 20 contestants of Big Brother Naija 2020. It is going to be awesome!

Bonus pictures of Nengi as a beauty queen

She fine, we know, Let someone else shine. Rhymes.

Thanks Jenny for the bonus pictures.

 Modupe Onanuga Longe

LET'S TALK MARRIAGES & DIVORCES, SHALL WE?

Hi Everyone,


This blog was very active when I was single then as a newly-wed, so I would like to touch on marriage today now that I may be considered a seasoned partner in marital life since I am married for seven years. Wowsa, do I have stories?

I love this picture because it looks very close to us. Keep reading

I will not be dwelling only on issues in my marriage because let's be honest, every marriage has its own prevalent issues but I will be making certain inferences on what I have learnt over the years. On a certain scale, I believe I and many of our friends say I am happily married, lol, but then again, marriage is a crazy investment where two people who may have no business doing business together set up trade together.




If you look at the premise of marriage itself, it is almost a nutty idea, God forgive me. Two individuals who have completely different upbringing and backgrounds are expected to become one to spend the rest of their lives together while trying to choose whose ingrained values or culture to adopt for the training of their products (children). 

Marriage should be filled with laughter like this. So Sweet

Let's get personal for a bit. Communication, for one. My own upbringing puts a lot on communication. Whenever there was any form of infraction on my Dad's laws in his house, an annoying meeting will be convened where my Dad would be the Judge, Jury and Executioner. We hated this while growing up but what it  provided was a forum for discussing issues and also not letting anything pile under the rug. We always hashed issues out even though the outcome may not be acceptable by all as Daddy ruled all as a Dictator who must not be questioned except you desired death, lol. Just kidding. No, but really, you may wish for it because of the punishment meted out to you over a period of time. (sings I'm a survivor by Destiny's Child)




However, I have come to find out that my husband is cut from an entirely different cloth when it comes to communication. You can classify him as reticent, brooding usually mistaken as gentle albeit with an advantage of wisdom and not very quick to react in anger. What this means is, when we have certain issues that need ironing out, he would rather not discuss it and he has the unfathomable talent of holding things in. Now, this character is very alien to me as I come from a background of outspoken individuals. In fact, while growing up in my Dad's house, the one person that was taciturn was seen as slow and was teased about it until she came out of her shell.




This is one of the differences that may present itself as difficulties in marriages and there are eclectic patterns in diverse marriages concerning personality, sex, money matters, faith, career, education, wealth acquisition, friends and other things. These differences often lead to divorce when couples cannot come to a head or a compromise about issues they are facing and when ego comes to play, everyone would like to go their separate ways instead of backing down for the other party. Let's not digress to cheating today because that's an entire book on its own.

The most expensive divorce ever executeth, lol. Jeff Bezos and Ex-Wife. Rich Ex-Wife

One of the other things that break marriages down is taking each other for granted, I mean, this happens in 99.5% of marriages and every party is guilty as sin. Just imagine if the way your husband chases you around for your attention while you guys were dating is the same way he does in marriage and vice versa, I think this may help marriages. Unfortunately, this is almost naturally impossible because of human nature as we get bored easily and it is those things that we do not have we continue to chase, once we have them, meh. They can chase you to forgive them after quarrels as a girlfriend, wait till you become a wife........of many years. Does this not sound like a bad investment? A wife of many years should be pampered just like the investment of many years that has better returns, mostly. No, a wife of many years means it is time to chase a sidechick instead of making the long-suffering wife feel appreciated. Women have suffered, this is why we are wilding out now.

What actually prompted this write up was the recent dissolution of Dr Dre's marriage to his wife of 24 years, Nicole Young. 24 years! That's eternity in the years of marriages these days especially in Hollywood where Dr Dre presides for a livelihood. Dr Dre is a prominent personality in American music business and is renowned for transforming the sound of music with 'Beats by Dre' so this is a public divorce. What struck me particularly was how Dr Dre was able to woo his Nicole into marrying him, I initially thought it was a chivalrous attempt until I read the infamous love letter he wrote to her which I would term as 'crude" but it obviously worked to rope her in. 

Dr Dre and Nicole Young now Ex-Wife

Dr Dre's now ex-wife was married to someone else and Dr Dre wrote her a letter imploring her to be with him so he can "take care of her" and he really wish he could be "all up in that ass", can you believe this guy's lascivious guts? Unbelievable. Then again, how else do you make a woman swoon? What woman does not like to be "taken care of" or have her ass as the center of attention, coughs. There had to have been some kind of sparks between these two for him to have the boldness strong enough to write her such an explicit letter. He obviously had no regard for the institution of marriage, he wants what he wants. Anyways, it worked and gave him 24 years. So, now why the divorce? Did he forget how to construct sentences in love letters? I doubt it, he just does not go out of his way to make his woman happy anymore because he believes strongly, just like every single married person would think, that the wife will always be there, tomorrow, next tomorrow and next, so no issue. The passion to be all up in that ass don fade away. There lies the problem with most marriages. Does her ass have stretch marks now? She did have two children for him so stretch marks are sincerely justified.

Nicole obviously is not having it, she filed for divorce citing irreconcilable differences and guess what?, there aint no prenup too mehn. Here's where I need to mention that Dr Dre is worth a whopping $800 Million Dollars and our Nicky baby is asking for spousal support. Did I hear someone say Kaching!? Damn straight.

I witnessed a lot go down in my parent's marriage, some things a child should not witness but who are we kidding, we have all seen sides to our parent's marriages that we do not approve of and other things that we may have incorporated into our own unit now. I think some of the things I saw made me have a strong resolve about the kind of woman I wanted to be in life but I did not lose my values keeping my word. One of the things I did hold on to was the essence of making everyday count for love in marriage and I put my entire being behind this. There is something I would always say to those I love, "We could be having fun right now but we are fighting and losing the greatest moments of our lives". We getting old ya'all.


So can we say marriage is an institution that was made not to last? I mean it is impossible for a person to be completely and continuously enamoured by another person for the rest of their lives. What about these long-adopted quotes?  "Nothing lasts forever" "The only constant thing about life is change" yada yada. There is always something or someone competing for that affection after the ephemeral honeymoon phase, be it a sidechick, a sugar boy, a career, desire for a short escape (where do you think you are going?)😂😂 Do we say a wife should compromise and inure herself to her husband's way of life based on his upbringing or should the husband be the one to let up? Do we say one partner should continue to remember how impassioned their love was and not complain about unrequited love? It's a crazy conundrum. 


That said, marriage is a lot of compromises, letting parts of yourself go so you are able to merge with parts of your spouse, letting things that infuriate you fly over your head, learning every single day to make precious moments, having moments of introspection, self-assessment with truth and more. The rate of divorces these days is alarming because times are changing. I think a large chunk of the reasons for divorces is that women are speaking and standing up for themselves more these days than ever before. According to most women online "We are not tolerating what our mothers tolerated".Inserts hair flip.

My mother did tolerate a lot in her marriage to my dad and that's why she is so precious to me today because she never left my dad which I obviously mean, she never left us, her children. Most times in this part of the world and especially the period of our formative years, the children would most likely remain with the dad as no court of law would deem a woman capable of raising children on her own. She stayed and endured, I am happy to say today, they are still together, over 45 years together, amazing yeah? Paid them a visit a week back and as my dad was conversing with us, I glanced at my mum and saw this look of deep love in her eyes as she looked at my dad talking. It made my heart give itself a warm hug, I left their home an even happier person that day. 

 

I wanna grow old with you, I wanna die lying in your arms🎼🎼

According to my mum, she stayed because of her children and this paid off very well for all of us. We all know what usually happens when a step-mum steps in to take care of young children, there is usually no taking care of. I am happy my mum stayed with my dad and that today that altruistic decision she made many years back still makes me feel very lucky. Would I stay if I had to experience half of what she did? Are we women of today selfish than our mothers because we are more empowered? Is empowerment and independence the reasons we are so ready to walk out of marriages without thinking about the children? Questions upon Questions. 



My Pastor strongly believes in the institution of marriage and would not condone divorce but only on the grounds of domestic abuse. People tend to forget that abuse has many colours, how about emotional abuse? Suck it up yeah? Iss ok. 



For me personally, I try to bring back the spark in my marriage. Prior to the corona lockdown and quarantining ourselves, I would always drag my husband out (emphasis on drag, lol) to romantic dinners, Friday night movies, live band bars, concerts, parties etc, just to bring about a revival and this works . I make sure there is some monumental event to celebrate every single month, people think I am crazy. I keep memorable dates of special events in my life and no birthday or other celebrations passes by without me trying to make a big deal so that we can have some good times. This is one of the many ways I used to re-ignite passion and make moments that last forever. These moments have saved us repeatedly when we almost forget how good we have it. My hubby is an introvert while I am most extrovert. Listen people, he was an extrovert before we got married, e be like say the guy was just performing for me while we were dating but it was sweet that he indulged me all those years. 10 years of friendship, 7 years of marriage is no beans. I still have more friends who are not married than married friends. Times are changing and people tolerate less so the standards are over the bar. Better single than divorced right? 

Us at a couples dinner party. I went makeup free. Our children go "Awwww" to this picture

All in all, always put God first. In this lucky number seven year of our marriage, one thing that has kept us together is praying together, no lies here. We promised not to go to bed angry but we do sometimes when we allow ego to set in but in the morning, we would hold hands together and kiss before we set out for the day. I am strong-headed and would kick his hands sometimes when he tries to wake me up for prayers but he would not stop tapping me to wake up, I give in every time and I love him for always doing this. Very soon after typing this missive, I will go and kiss him to say Happy New Month because July 2020 is in few hours, that's the beginning of the second half of this mind-boggling year 2020 and we are still thriving. May God's love continue to be our love and may the sweet sweet wine of all our marriages continue to be very tasty in Jesus name. Amen.




Make lasting memories with your significant other today. Memories are forever.




Always Real, 

Modupe Onanuga Longe

IT'S 2020 AND HERE I AM TOO. MODUPE ONANUGA LONGE

Hello everyone!!! 


I am feeling a rush of emotions typing right now as I have not gone to the draft section of this blog since 5 years back, that is freaking nuts! My life has changed tremendously in 5 years as I am sure yours has too, we thank God that we are all alive and it's been a wonderful change.


I was going to do a comparison of what I looked like exactly 5 years ago, June 2015 and what I looked like today. After seeing the pictures of myself in 2015 that I found, I had a quick rethink, lol. I had forgotten I just had a baby this period in 2015, I looked like an avocado, omg! I would have had to post a picture of what I looked like 8 days after undergoing a second caesarian section which I am going to write about so that those who may go through the same would have some form of insight on recovery and moving on. Not today, I am not traumatizing anyone. I believe in displaying ourselves with all flaws all the time but for the sake of the revival of this blog, we will stick to aesthetics.

Stimulating yeah? Trust me, I dont look like this everyday, lol

Anyways, the world is still at a semi-standstill today the 29th of June 2020, due to the pandemic of corona virus which has killed so many people all over the world. It is a really really sad time in history and most countries have closed down air travel which is a pain but safety first. Everyone is affected by this virus and this situation is so precarious because anyone is no one, the corona virus is such a humbler of persons, it has killed the powerful, powerless, influential, popular, healthy, you name it.


Obviously, the virus is part of the reason I remembered this blog today because my industry is part of those affected by the virus as it has been shut down to prevent the spread, which I fully support. I have a lot of time on my hands these days and since I still have the gift of typing very fast without glancing at my keyboard, it was time to check out my blog and see if I would still get thousands of visitors like I used to (crosses fingers gleefully). Tell a friend to tell a friend and their friends that there is going to be valuable content right here!


Checked out some posts in my draft that never made it to the main page of this blog and I am shocked at how much my outlook on life has evolved but also to be honest, how I feel like a sell-out now. I had this draft where I was criticizing life on Instagram, the show-off social network and realized that I have been carried away by the craze (where is my laughing and covering my face emoji?) Found it 🙈😅

I am now hugely on Instagram, moved on from Facebook as most of my content there is a copy of my Instagram posts. As for twitter, I have no idea what goes on there, I just go once in a while to pour out my thoughts (euphemism for frustration) then I log out because someone is always dropping in my DM and trying to get me into trouble, T for Twitter, T for temptations. 

A screenshot of my Insta page so you can go follow to really catch up. Dont stalk or lurk, FOLLOW

As for the main content on this blog in this corona period 2020, it would be more of a commentary, my experiences and sharing of thoughts about things happening around us as well as sharing ideas on self-development which I believe is the essence of life. 

To catch up, let me share developments in my life so far from the last time I made a peep into this blog. Better yet, I will re-introduce myself because of new visitors and post a most recent picture too for spice. (I just looked for emoji for shinning my teeth again, ugh, social media alphabets) 😁

Okay! My name is Modupe Onanuga-Longe, I am a mum of two now, still married, I believe happily so. I spend most of my time taking care of the children as I am almost a stay at home mom these days due to the annoying virus but I am still very much active. I have developed this intense love for cooking (I will be sharing recipes and chef secrets) and I love eating those foods that I cook on days we do not order out. I keep myself busy mostly by ensuring that my families are safe during this dire period and also making sure we do not lose hope for a better brighter future ahead as it is very easy to become despondent, trust me, I almost had a bout of depression during the abysmal lockdown. I also decided to bag more qualifications, I have a Masters now, a CIM UK (Chartered Marketer) and was able to acquire a GPA of 4.33 in my Masters after several sleepless nights, whew!. I love praying because everything in this life is founded on prayers and a vibrant relationship with God our creator, I start and end everyday showing immense gratitude to God.

Here's a picture of one of my my fit meals. It's Mazza spaghetti cooked in veggies and a glass of green juice

Weekends are always the best for me because my husband is home with me and all we do is watch series as we sit on the couch stuffing our faces. I am also a fitness enthusiast, I love looking good, working out and watching how my body changes with decisions or choices that I make. I wish I could read more books the way I used to, novels used to be my companion and vocabulary builder back in the days but I cant say I have seen a book in recent times as our smartphones have taken over. I am not so good at speaking about myself unless questions are asked so I will stop here. 

A palatable gastronomic feature of the junk days and how I serve my husband. Fresh guy

Let me know if you have any question, still an open book. So here is a picture of me taken this month, flaws and all. Hope to hear from every single one of you that still get an email alert from my posts. Trust me, this is going to be fun. 

Not bad for a mom of two yeah?

Always Real. Modupe Onanuga Longe.